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Love is the foundation of the spiritual quest. For me, the spiritual quest is not about finding god. I don't believe in god, I believe in love. The spiritual quest is about the longing for love that we all feel. Everyone longs for love. Spiritual work is the same thing as falling in love; it's the fullest expression of falling in love.

Love manifests in loving my own body. If I love my body, I take good care of it. I don't damage it by consuming alcohol, drugs, or junk food. I give it plenty of exercise. I pay close attention to body sensations, letting my body guide me. I didn't make much spiritual progress until I surrendered to my body's inherent wisdom in all those areas.

I surrender to the demands of love. I find my way to my wisdom by surrendering to the demands of love, surrendering to love's wisdom.

Becoming a better lover. Loving my body and surrendering to its wisdom makes me a better lover. Loving my body shows me the way to love another's body. No amount of sexual passion or expertise can make me a good lover otherwise.

I have to love the world just the way it is. If I put conditions on it, like "I'll love the world when there's true racial equality," or "I can't love a world where corporations control the economy and exploit workers," I end up without love. This is the only world there is, and it won't change to meet my unrealistic conditions. I can't love everything about the world, so I focus on the things I do love, like nature, and people I'm close to. Meditation is working to love the things I do love better.

Meditation is an ongoing course in loving. When I meditate I exercise my love; I make it stronger. I can feel its strength growing. It feels wonderful to exercise my love, and I know I'll be a better lover when I have someone to love. Plus, if I'm a better lover I'll attract love; someone will find me. Meditation increases the love in my life no matter what.

Making friends with love. If I focus on love in my meditation, the physical basics become love's way of teaching me. The pandemic created the perfect opportunity for me to make friends with love and become a better lover. I broke up with my sweetheart right before the pandemic hit, so I got to go through the rest of 2020 all alone. I had just broken free of booze and addiction, so I focused on the other basics: exercise, diet, and meditation. In all three areas, love patiently taught me how to make progress. Even though I'm all alone, I've had lots of opportunity to exercise my love, and I know I'm a better lover now. I'm looking forward to putting that into action.